You ask a simple question: “What would you like for lunch today?” But instead of a response, you’re met with hesitation, bewilderment, and an extended pause. You have most likely encountered occasions such as this while caring for a person with Alzheimer’s, where words seem just out of reach and conversations feel more like challenges than connections. When verbal communication begins to fade, it’s very easy to feel at a loss. But the truth is, communication doesn’t rely solely on words.
I have seen firsthand how a simple gesture, like holding a person’s hand, can transmit reassurance and love much more powerfully than words ever could. These experiences remind us that communication does not end when words fail; it merely shifts to other forms. Nonverbal communication becomes the link that enables us to keep meaningful connections and make sure a senior loved one with Alzheimer’s feels seen and supported.
How Nonverbal Communication Enhances Alzheimer’s Care
Alzheimer’s makes it challenging for individuals to find the words they need or even understand what is being said to them. Yet, their emotional awareness often remains intact. This means they can sense joy, love, frustration, and calmness, even when they cannot articulate these emotions. Nonverbal communication bridges the gap, letting you express understanding, empathy, and reassurance without words.
Easy Ways to Communicate Nonverbally
Listed below are five nonverbal ways to interact with someone with dementia:
- Tone of voice: Whether or not your words are understood, your tone is. Speak softly and warmly, as it may help reduce anxiousness and foster a sense of serenity.
- Eye contact: Meeting someone’s gaze can be incredibly grounding. For a person with Alzheimer’s, eye contact communicates that you are present and engaged. It may help them feel seen and valued, even if their memory struggles to recognize you.
- Facial expressions: A smile or a calm, reassuring expression speaks volumes. Your face can reflect emotions that words may fail to convey, for example understanding, kindness, and patience.
- Touch: A warm hand on their shoulder, holding their hand, or a gentle pat on the back can communicate comfort and love. Touch can often bypass confusion, reaching right to the heart.
- Body language: Open, inviting posture shows you’re accessible. Avoid crossed arms or abrupt movements, which might be perceived as impatience, frustration, or even anger.
Activities That Encourage Nonverbal Interaction
Engaging in simple, shared activities can enhance nonverbal communication. Try doing a craft together, brushing the person’s hair, or listening to music—moments that don’t require words. It is about being present and creating shared experiences.
As an example, a number of people with Alzheimer’s respond well to music. Singing or playing familiar tunes can spark joy and provide a way to connect that feels uplifting and easy.
Watch for Their Nonverbal Cues as Well
Communication is a two-way street. Your family member is probably sharing their emotions nonverbally, too. Learn to recognize their cues:
- Gestures: Pointing or reaching for something could be their means of indicating a need.
- Sounds: Humming, sighing, as well as other vocalizations can convey feelings when words do not come.
- Facial expressions: A furrowed brow may indicate annoyance or distress, while a smile can show happiness.
The next time you’re striving for the right words, keep in mind that silence is not the absence of communication. It’s a chance to speak with your eyes, your hands, and your heart. After all, some of the most meaningful connections don’t require words at all.
Want Additional Help and Resources?
At Superior Senior Home Care, our caregivers are experts in caring for individuals with Alzheimer’s while supporting the people who love them. Get in touch with us at 805-737-4357 for additional details on our skilled Alzheimer’s care in Santa Maria, Lompoc, Santa Ynez, and throughout SLO and Santa Barbara County.